When it is obvious that you are losing, do you fight, kick, spit, scratch, and sling mud at your opponent, or do you maintain the high road and gracefully decline. I'm talking about the Hillary-Obama campaign. Give it up Hillary. Sometimes in life, we just have to recognize and accept when it's our turn and when it's not. If not now, then later. Waiting is hard! But you'll always get your turn.
Check out the song, We Are the Ones, by Zoe Kravitz, Lenny Kravitz's and Lisa Bonet's daughter.
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Thursday, May 8, 2008
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Are We Afraid of The Children--Connect or Disconnect?
How many times in your daily travels have you seen teenagers or even younger children, without adult supervision, behaving or speaking inappropriately? How many of those times did you attempt to redirect their behavior?
In conversation with a group of adults at the Willow Grove Mall one day, many in the group stated that when they see children cursing, or being rowdy on the bus, they say nothing. They feared being cursed out by the child or even more so, by the child's parent(s). We cannot just turn or shake our heads. If we turn our heads, then we can't complain when the children are out of control, and our communities become a place we do not want to live. It is our civic duty to engage with the children, and to gently guide them on the path they should go, when they stray. I believe because so many children come from broken homes, from single parent families, and from parents that lack good parenting skills, some may feel neglected, abandoned, and uncared for.
Just a word of encouragement can go a long way. Your words can show a child that someone does care. Your positive words can strike a relationship with a child in your neighborhood. Your positive words can forge a camaraderie with an adult, that that child may not have. I believe, if you get to know just one child, you will see a beautiful person, who needs direction and guidance. Perhaps the child needs to hear from someone else, what the parent has been saying for a long time--and you're that person! Also, instead of addressing the negative behavior you observe, ask the child how was their day at school. Gather a group of children and take a day trip (with the parent's consent of course). Engage with the child positively. I say, ask God to help you be a mentor to a child, pray for God to give you the right words to speak, and pray that the parent(s) will be receptive to you speaking direction into their child's life. Instead of cursing you out, the parent may welcome your assistance. If you pray on it, God will work it out. If you speak calmly, and not disdainfully or with anger, your words will be received. You can make a positive difference in a child's life. Don't be afraid to do what's right. It does take a village to raise a child, and the village will be better off for it!
In conversation with a group of adults at the Willow Grove Mall one day, many in the group stated that when they see children cursing, or being rowdy on the bus, they say nothing. They feared being cursed out by the child or even more so, by the child's parent(s). We cannot just turn or shake our heads. If we turn our heads, then we can't complain when the children are out of control, and our communities become a place we do not want to live. It is our civic duty to engage with the children, and to gently guide them on the path they should go, when they stray. I believe because so many children come from broken homes, from single parent families, and from parents that lack good parenting skills, some may feel neglected, abandoned, and uncared for.
Just a word of encouragement can go a long way. Your words can show a child that someone does care. Your positive words can strike a relationship with a child in your neighborhood. Your positive words can forge a camaraderie with an adult, that that child may not have. I believe, if you get to know just one child, you will see a beautiful person, who needs direction and guidance. Perhaps the child needs to hear from someone else, what the parent has been saying for a long time--and you're that person! Also, instead of addressing the negative behavior you observe, ask the child how was their day at school. Gather a group of children and take a day trip (with the parent's consent of course). Engage with the child positively. I say, ask God to help you be a mentor to a child, pray for God to give you the right words to speak, and pray that the parent(s) will be receptive to you speaking direction into their child's life. Instead of cursing you out, the parent may welcome your assistance. If you pray on it, God will work it out. If you speak calmly, and not disdainfully or with anger, your words will be received. You can make a positive difference in a child's life. Don't be afraid to do what's right. It does take a village to raise a child, and the village will be better off for it!
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
You Must Read This Book!
Although my book targets single women, married women and single men have been talking about my book, Let Not Your Heart Be Hardened: A Message for Today's Single Woman.
This book examines sexual behaviors between men and women in contemporary relationships. It specifically dicusses the culture of males who pretend to persue a relationship, but have an ultimate goal of sex. Biblical reference is given to help men and women understand their roles in relationships. After hearing soooo many women bring up this topic in my daily travels, for some period of time, I felt compelled to write, Let Not Your Heart Be Hardened: A Message for Today's Single Woman. You can read the 1st chapter, The Open Door Effect, at www.rhemapublishing.net/CGI-BIN/letnotyourheartbehardenedch1.pdf
This book examines sexual behaviors between men and women in contemporary relationships. It specifically dicusses the culture of males who pretend to persue a relationship, but have an ultimate goal of sex. Biblical reference is given to help men and women understand their roles in relationships. After hearing soooo many women bring up this topic in my daily travels, for some period of time, I felt compelled to write, Let Not Your Heart Be Hardened: A Message for Today's Single Woman. You can read the 1st chapter, The Open Door Effect, at www.rhemapublishing.net/CGI-BIN/letnotyourheartbehardenedch1.pdf
I recognize that both men and women play this sexual game of, "Once I've had sex with you, I'm gone". However, generically speaking, the men have the monopoly on this game. When you have encountered someone like this, know that they are shallow, and lack understanding of intimacy--not sex, but real intimacy. It is selfish and destructive behavior. Women in particular cannot and should not continue to be silent of such treatment. If men continue to open the door to this destructive behavior, women have the power to close it. Women--stop complaining and do something about it! If you challenge it, it will change. I do encourage the men who have an understanding, of how shallow and destructive these sexual games are, to pass on their wisdom to the youth and older males in the community. We must teach what we know, and encourage others to come up higher in their thinking and living. We are all effected by it.
In order for our behavior to change, we must experience a change in our thought process. Women, and men must change the way we view the opposite sex, the value we place on people and relationships and God. We must view what we say and how we treat others as either nurturing or destructive. We must think beyound ourselves and consider the systemmic consequences of our behavior. Making God and his word the head of our lives means that we can prosper in our relationships. When we think of everyone we meet as a creation of God, and handle each person with care, and truth and love, then we honor the creator as well as the creation. When we honor the creator, he will honor us, collectively and individually. If you are male or female and are playing sexual games, stop it now! The power is in your hands. What will you decide?
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